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Welcome to Demystify Magic with Molly and Madison.
I'm Molly, a former skeptic turned full time energy healer and teacher.
And I'm Madison, a born and raised witch running my family's crystal shop.
And we're here to explore all things woo through the lens of both science and spirituality, so that you can find the moments of magic in your everyday life and create an intentional spiritual practice.
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So if that's what you're into, find a cozy spot, take a deep breath, and let's demystify some magic.
Howdy, duty friends.
Howdy, duty friends.
Happy.
December.
Happy December.
We're just gonna repeat each other the entire episode.
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Yes, actually, that's my whole plan.
I was just gonna say everything that you say.
I know that I've officially become an old person because when December hits, I go, wow, this year just flew by.
I look back and go just yesterday it was March, and I spend about three to four weeks reflecting on the fact that, wow, just the time keeps moving.
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See, I know I'm an old person because when December hits, I go.
My joints are telling me it's gonna snow.
Well, specifically the that's very old person coded to.
Me.
Thank you.
I am an 80 year old trapped in a 32 year old's body.
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Same same.
So they say, anyways, we're not going to talk about that today.
We're doing an episode all about energetic boundaries, how you can set them before in the moment, and what you can do after.
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I'm setting some energetic boundaries around this intro cause it's.
Chaos.
We are recording in the thick of Mercury retrograde.
Yeah, Happy retrograde.
How do you know what Listening now?
We're not even out of it yet.
By that time you listen to this, are we?
No.
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Check in time.
How you doing?
Us too.
Yeah.
Anyways, we thought it would be helpful as we go into the the thick of the holiday season to give you some energetic boundary support.
So we're going to talk through like, before you go into a situation where you know you need a little extra energetic support in the moment, what can you do?
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And then after to come back to baseline.
But first and before we get into magic moments, can I get a drum roll, please?
Our merch is here.
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It's live.
You can shop the merch line at demystifymagic.com right now.
That link will be in Z Show notes.
We have T-shirts, we have crew necks.
We have hoodies.
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We have mugs.
We have journals, we have stickers.
I am so excited about this.
We had so much fun designing this.
We were able to work with the same artist who designed both the Healing Hedgewich and Spellcrafters candle labels.
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Her name is Jen.
Shout out Jen, we love you so much.
She is an amazing artist who really like brought our like.
We just came with a dock of the silliest phrases.
That you all chose, by the way.
That you all chose this is your fault, you listening, your fault and just said go crazy girl.
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Yeah, and it turned out better than I ever could have imagined.
I was looking at the website the other day and I was like, floored.
I feel very professional and also it feels like the most self indulgent thing I've ever done.
Our faces are on a fucking mug.
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That is so.
Weird.
Yeah, yeah.
And for a little behind the scenes, some of the things that were really important to us as we wanted you to be able to leisurely shop this drop.
So it is everything is print on demand, so you don't have to worry about like, Oh my God, is it going to sell out?
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Like it's not going anywhere.
And we also wanted to make sure that the sizes felt as inclusive as possible.
So shirt sizes go up to 4XL, crew necks go up to three XL, and the hoodie goes up to five XL.
And yeah, we're happy to say that we were able to choose distributors that we could set the price exactly the same whether you're buying A5, XL or an extra small.
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We wanted to make sure that all of those prices were equal to each other.
Yes, and something important to note if you are ordering, since it is print on demand, things will ship separately.
So if you if you order some T-shirts and a hoodie and your T-shirts come and there's no hoodie in the package, that's why they're coming from different people.
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So do not panic if that happens.
We will also send like that'll be in your confirmation as well.
But just wanted to say it because it is something that I also panicked about once.
Yes, and shipping is international, so wherever you are listening to this in the world, you can get yourself a Dead Mouse Pendulum T-shirt or a Howdy Doody Friends mug or a Magic Moments journal and, you know, support your favorite weird witchy gurlies who talk into a microphone once a week into your ear balls.
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Into your ear balls.
And most, most importantly, we can all match.
We can all match.
I'm wearing my Demystify Magic crew neck right now.
What are you wearing the?
Only reason I am not wearing my Demystify Magic T-shirt is because it's in the.
Wash.
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It's in the wash because I've worn all of it to death.
Yes, we have watched that stuff.
Big fan.
Big fan.
Anyways, we can't wait to hear what you think.
I also wanted to introduce a little little challenge to the community, if you will.
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OK, I haven't, I haven't run this by Madison, but if you buy a piece of Demystify Magic merch, please share it with us, tag us in your Instagram stories.
And even if it's out of your budget right now, out of your means to buy a piece of Demystify Magic merch, I'm going to encourage you to make your own merch and also tag us in your stories because we have seen some really incredible T-shirts, journal stickers inspired by the pod.
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Yes.
Oh my God, you did not need to run that by me at all.
Please make your own merch.
I love seeing what you guys create, it's so much fun.
The shit that y'all send us is so silly and lovely and wonderful and weird and it's the best.
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It's the best, the best.
So whether you buy our merch, support the pod in that way, or you support the pod by DIY ING your merch, we want to see it.
We want to see those tags.
We wanna, we wanna match with you.
OK, love, you mean it?
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OK, love.
You mean it now, Madison?
What was your magic moment?
My magic moment is kind of like a whole amalgamation of things.
So sorry, but it was my birthday this past weekend.
Happy birthday.
I went to New Orleans because my birthday is almost always like ±2 or three days of Thanksgiving.
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And this year, because Thanksgiving is so late, my birthday was the weekend before Thanksgiving.
And so I actually got to have a day that was totally separate from colonizers.
I love that for you.
And it was on a Saturday.
So we went to New Orleans, Drew and I, and I had the best fucking time and I was flooded with messages from you guys.
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It was so sweet.
I cried all day.
I'm pretty sure I still have unread messages on my Instagram because I like, couldn't get through them all.
There were so many.
It was so sweet.
So if you message me, thank you.
I love you.
I had the best silly little time.
Literally all I wanted to do was just visit every metaphysical shop within walking distance of my hotel and I accomplished that.
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Got to see so much.
I took a tour.
I'm gonna plug this tour if you live near New Orleans.
If you're going to New Orleans, highly, highly recommend and shout out tours by foot.
They do a a walking tour with a voodoo priest.
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His name is Priest Roby.
He is probably the sweetest, nicest person I have ever met.
Loved that human being.
And it was the biggest thing for me going to a place like New Orleans was not wanting to, like, give in to the stereotypes around voodoo and not wanting to, like, participate in things that make it seem like something it's not.
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And Priest Roby gave an incredible tour, talked about the history of misrepresentation of voodoo, talked about racism, talked about homophobia, talked about how Hollywood has portrayed voodoo, what it's really like where the misconceptions lie, and also how to honor those practices and shop at the the voodoo stores there respectfully.
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And it was the best.
And that was truly my magic moment.
We like hugged at the end.
Love you.
Thank you so much for like, so I got to do that on my birthday, on the morning of my birthday.
And I was like, well, I'm done for the day.
That was great.
That was everything I wanted.
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I support that.
It was the best sounds.
Amazing.
It was really fun and I wanna go back immediately.
Me dear Trey all.
Right.
What was your magic moment?
My magic moment is a little bit silly, but I have like a full circle like 10 year old Molly is smiling at 32 year old Molly right now.
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Because some some lure into my my life is that I was the kid that was always making the silly YouTube videos, even if they weren't going on YouTube, You know, like I was the kid who when I got to high school and I had to give like presentations for book reports and like psychology class and shit, I was filming like a Twilight spoof to talk about Karen Hornye.
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You know, I was, I was doing a British talk show to talk about Edgar Allan Poe.
Like that was my thing.
Like I just recorded silly little videos which this.
Is where we are the same?
I was like, you're shocked considering what my job is today.
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Yeah.
But what's funny is I started doing YouTube maybe like 9-10 months ago and I just haven't had that spark of joy or excitement for it.
Like, I know I want to, I want to create YouTube, but I just haven't found that magic, right?
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I haven't found that magic.
And I have like an amazing producer and team that like helps me with it because it's like if I had to edit that shit, that would totally suck the magic out of it.
But even still, just showing up and like, being the talent has not really sparked joy for me.
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And I think you can feel that on some level.
Not that my YouTube sucks, but it's just like it's missing.
It's missing the pizzazz.
And I think we finally found the pizzazz.
So if you've watched my YouTube in the last 24 hours since this episode is coming out, I decided to like just go so silly.
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Like I decided to really bring back 10 year old Molly's idea of what she wanted YouTube to be.
And so my team and I sat down and I was like, I want it to be a melodramatic reality TV show.
So we, my poor little Gen.
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Z editor, watched a bunch of episodes of Cribs to prepare for it.
And we were like, oh, we need to manufacture some drama.
We did not need to manufacture drama.
Real drama happened because the ghost decided to take over my oven.
And it's just like a really silly, really fun video that's like part house tour part like, you know, you see like some of my spiritual practices and action, you get to see like kind of some silly behind the scenes of what's happening in my life and my business.
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So it's sort of like a, a hybrid day in the life of a witch, but like also really silly and like goofy.
And I don't know, it just like it.
I, it was like such like a childlike joyful experience creating.
And I just got to see as we're, as we're recording this, I just saw the final version yesterday and I just like, I'm so excited for the world to see it.
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I'm so excited.
We're gonna do a Seinfeld spoof next, so.
Thank you.
So fun.
Love, love.
Love, love, love, love.
All right, shall we get into it?
I guess.
I suppose I suppose.
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All right, so we're gonna kind of segment this episode into before, during, after.
I also want to preface this episode with this is not just like a difficult family dynamics, you know, like lots of tension prerequisite, you know, like this is something we're all gonna talk about things that we do even like in spaces that we want to be in.
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Yeah.
You just feel a little overwhelmed.
You need a little extra support.
Half of this podcast is created by an introvert.
There's one introvert among us.
Which one the world may never know.
The world may never know.
Is it the one making a reality show on on YouTube?
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Or is it the one that posts on Instagram twice a year?
But if you're a person who like even the spaces that you really want to be in and really want to go to, if that feels stressful to you when you're not alone, because I fucking feel you, friend.
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The holiday season is an introverts worst nightmare.
I fear these are things that you can do just to like emotionally, spiritually, energetically, create a better time for yourself.
And so no matter what like spectrum of tension your holiday season is fraught with, these are things you can use.
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Spectrum of tension.
Add that to our list of band names.
That is a really good one.
Yeah.
Wow.
I know I it needs a synth player in it for sure.
Agreed.
Yeah, yeah.
I don't really think I know what that is.
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Synth, it's like a it's, it's an instrument, it sounds like.
My headphones literally would not pick up that sound.
OK, good.
When you listen to this episode, you will You will.
Let me know if that resonates.
I can't wait to I can't wait.
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That was wild.
It was just you making this face with nothing coming out.
Well, just trust that I I'm I did a perfect synth representation.
I believe you.
I just apparently was not meant to know what a synth really is.
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The universe was keeping it from me.
All right, But to start.
Oh God, we lost her.
She's gone.
OK, Speaking of synths.
Yeah, clear.
Excellent segue.
I'm gonna take you through a practice that I have taken you through on the pod before, so if you've heard this before, I implore you to do it again.
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I think that it's interesting to see what comes up each time you try a good refresher.
And if you haven't heard me talk about it yet, congratulations, this is for you.
You're well.
You're welcome.
It's one of our most beloved practices.
People DM us all the time and are like which episode did Madison do that thing?
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And it is the number one recommendation I give to anybody.
Once somebody asked me for a candle recommendation, I said, I know this is not what you asked for, but this is what I think you should do instead.
And I gave them this practice.
But this is something that my mom taught me when I was pretty young that I have kind of adapted and built on throughout the years.
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It very much started as AI think a little bit of like a meditation thing for a nervous child that now I have made very like quite witchy.
So I want you to put your feet on the floor and you're gonna take a few deep breaths.
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So we're gonna go in through the nose and out through the mouth and one more time take a deep breath in and you're gonna breathe out.
And I want you to imagine all of the energy that you have given to other people, to other situations, to other circumstances.
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And I want you to call it back.
And so I want you to imagine it like flying towards you.
What does it look like?
What does it feel like as it comes back into your center?
And as you call this energy back, I want you to imagine it strengthening into a kind of force field around you.
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And I don't want you to think about it too hard.
I want you to just acknowledge what comes to mind immediately.
What does that energy look like?
For some people, it might look like earth, like a like a true wall.
It could look like a force field of air, right?
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Like a tornado around you, like fire, like a true firewall.
Or it could look like water for me.
Often it looks like electricity.
And I want you to imagine this energy swirling around you.
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And as it pulls your energy in, it's also keeping others energy out.
And you're going to set the intention that this force field is going to stay around you all day.
It's like the witchy version of I'm rubber, you're glue.
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Any energy that you send my way is going to bounce off me and stick back to you.
And so as you feel your force field strengthening, know that even as you let it go, it's going to stay all day throughout this entire encounter that you're going to have through all of Christmas dinner, through all of Christmas Eve gathering, through all of your Secret Santa party.
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It's going to be there and it's going to hold your energy in and it's going to keep others energy out.
And I want you to take another deep breath, and I want you to let it go, knowing that even when you're not actively imagining it, feeling it, seeing it.
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It's there.
I love that.
What does it look like to you?
Usually it.
Looks like fire, but this time it looked like a waterfall, like I was underneath a waterfall.
I love that.
And that's why even if you've done this before, I think it's important to like do it every time without expectation because oftentimes it will change and it will give you what you need.
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Mine used to be very fiery oftentimes when I was younger when my mom taught me to do it, she had me do it as like a a great ball of light that would surround me and keep me safe.
I was a very anxious child.
I think this is where this came from.
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I was a very anxious child.
I was a very nervous child.
I was a very introverted child who my mom taught me to do that before I went to school.
Yeah.
And I loved how you said it becomes like I'm rubber your glue, because that is exactly how I describe my recommendation, which is the crystal equivalent of the I'm rubber your glue, your energy bounces off me and sticks to you.
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You've heard me talk about it before.
I totally forgot about that.
Really.
I thought you did that on purpose.
No, that was a true a truly channeled perfect segue.
Oh my God.
Anyways, you've heard me talk about it before.
It's my favorite protection crystal.
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It is called Jet.
It is amazing.
Incredible.
I don't.
I don't travel without it.
I don't go into crowds without it.
I don't go into stressful holiday gatherings without it.
I don't go to the grocery store without it.
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It is my Costco stone.
OK?
I'm always wearing that bracelet when I go to those big box stores, especially this time of year.
Costco also a great place to do that practice before.
Oh yeah, the people.
At Costco.
Ruthless, Ruthless.
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Some people get behind a cart that size and they don't know how to act.
They don't.
OK, we went into Costco.
This is an aside.
We went into Costco last weekend, the weekend before Thanksgiving, and they were pulling multiple pallets of pumpkin pie out of the back.
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Like so much pumpkin pie.
And I was just like, oh, they are preparing for the Stampede.
They are not fucking around.
So yeah, my favorite Costco stone is Jet.
Do you do you have Jet in your shops?
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I have the tumbles.
I can't find it in anything.
Oh, OK.
Like I can't find jewelry.
I don't know if it's something that is like relatively rare, it doesn't seem so 'cause it's not very expensive, but none of the people that I work with carry it.
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I've been able to find tumbles once.
OK, it's probably because I promo it so much that Luxe Crystals just corners the market on it to be honest.
I need you to ask them where they get it from and can they share?
Yeah, I know I do.
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But yeah, get yourself a jet bracelet.
A jet tumble.
Anything jet.
Anything jet.
Anything jet.
Before I found my jet bracelet, I had a jet tumble that I kept in my socks.
Like in the top of my socks, not not in the bottom of my socks.
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What do you mean in the top of your sock?
Like like if you have like a longer sock you tuck.
It into the.
Top of your sock.
I thought you meant like the top of your foot.
No, it was.
Like that, is it any better?
The low calf part of the sock.
This is where This is where our geographical distance really shows, because ain't nobody where I live wearing a sock that goes above the ankle.
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That's not true, my dad.
You should see his kaftan lines from all those hours of pickleball on the courts.
You should put a jet in there for him.
I should, I should.
I did get him a Demist my magic swag bag.
So anyways, that's our recommendations for before you go into a stressful thing like Costco or family dinner or wherever else you feel impacted by other people's energy.
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The two most stressful places Family dinner, Costco.
And they wore it for supremacy.
Weigh in in the comments.
Would you rather go into what's more stressful, family dinner or Costco?
No specifically.
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Family reunion.
Family reunion versus Costco the weekend before Thanksgiving.
The day before Thanksgiving.
Oh no, no, I would.
I can't even get in the parking lot.
The whole store is just taken over by pumpkin pies.
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Yes, there's nothing else.
That's the cranberry sauce.
Sing it, I told Madison.
She has to sing.
I scared Molly with my rendition of Linda Belcher's Thanksgiving song before we started recording.
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Show us.
Pass the granberry sauce.
We have a mashed potatoes.
Oh, the Turkey looks great.
Thank you for loving me.
Thank you for being there.
The whole world's thinking The whole world's thinking you thinking us for thanking you think you.
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I'll be here all week.
She's got the look, she's got the shoulder swivels.
I can't help it.
She lives in me and it's not I.
And I think the thing about it is it's not a particularly good impression.
It's that I own it.
It's it is the.
The energy you have, the energy you have Linda Belcher energy.
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I am the most introverted Linda Belcher that there ever ever was.
I'm Linda Belcher if she didn't leave the house.
Yeah, yeah.
And had no children.
Well, the cats.
I do have 3 cats.
That helps.
Yeah.
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All right.
All right.
During, during the.
We've arrived to the family reunion or to the.
Costco.
What are we doing in the aisles amongst amongst the pumpkin pies?
OK, all right.
Wait.
This is actually something I did at Costco.
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Excellent.
This is a this is a grounding practice and a practice of re refortifying that shield.
OK, so I'm just gonna walk you through it.
Put your feet on the floor.
Here I go.
OK, take a deep breath.
Let it go.
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Relax your butt muscles, relax your shoulders and release your jaw as you breathe in.
Draw the energy of the earth up through your feet, up through that Clear Channel we just created, relaxing the legs all the way up the spine, all the way up to the crown of the head, filling your whole body with that Earth's energy as you breathe in and as you exhale, feel that shield around you strengthen and expand.
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So just like when you saw that fire, that water, that electricity, whatever you saw around you, felt around you before, as your shield, see it reignite and as you exhale, it expands and pushes everyone else's energy away.
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So take a few more breaths just like that, breathing in the support of the earth right below your feet.
It's not going anywhere.
Breathing out and allowing that shield to expand and just notice as you breathe.
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Can you relax the legs anymore?
Unclench your butt cheeks, Let the breath move through the abdomen, softening your stomach, letting the shoulders drop, unclenching the jaw.
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Take one more deep breath in, draw the earth up and exhale, Strengthen and expand that shield.
Love, love I so I have to tell a story.
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I think I've talked through this before.
I know it's what you're about to tell, do you?
Is it about doing this in Costco?
'Cause you've talked.
I've definitely heard she's laughing like she's not.
Well, I was like, all of a sudden I was about to tell this story, but then I realized I have told the story in a grocery store.
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I've told the story at a concert about to tell the story in Costco.
And I realized I just do this every time someone is too close to me.
I've done this.
I did this in line at the Jungle Cruise Disney World.
Perfect place for it.
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This woman was like right up my ass.
She was like we were in line for an hour.
I was like lady you do not need to be that close to me.
I am trying to read my smut book on my kindle.
Can't you lay that on the Jungle Cruise?
I promise.
I know I was like, it's the Jungle Cruise.
Yeah, first of all, it's not Space Mountain.
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You'll live.
I know there's only like one person that should stand in line for an hour for the Jungle Cruise and it is the person who's obsessed with puns.
Me.
Anyway, I do that.
I do that either in Costco, Jungle Cruise, whatever.
When someone's too close to me in line, I do that and they always, always, always either step back or when the line moves forward, I move forward and they give me more space every fucking time.
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Every time.
It is so powerful.
This isn't also an excellent practice for IF like the very niche situation of if you're at a social gathering and there's like one person there that you really don't want to talk to.
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They will leave you alone.
Just push those boundaries as far as like as far away from you as you humanly can and set that intention of like, here's who I allow into this barrier.
Here's who I do not.
Yes, so I, this is my 19th Thanksgiving as a vegetarian and my family still has not like accepted this as a reality.
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It's like my mom's a foodie.
And so it's like, you know, sacrilegious that I don't eat meat.
And so every, every Thanksgiving there's always some comments around like you haven't told Furky again, there's so many chemicals in that what you know, and I do that, I do that practice.
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I just take a couple of deep breaths while I'm sitting there eating my green beans and the comments stop.
They always stop.
It's like, it's almost like I feel like it becomes like a cloak, like a, like an invisibility cloak, almost like the people who are going to interrupt you or interrupt your energy affect your energy negatively.
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It's almost like they no longer see you.
Mm hmm.
All right, what I have on this list kind of goes hand in hand with that because this is like this is less of a witch you practice in more of like a mentality, like a perspective shift that I've given myself recently.
Because I really do see right now joy as such a radical act.
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And so as you're pushing out those boundaries, as you're pushing out that shield, bringing the joy into that bubble, especially if like if you have those family members that are talking shit about your tofurkey, that are talking shit about your life choices.
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The magic really comes when you can let those words bounce off that shield and continue to live joyously and authentically, regardless of what anybody is saying or doing.
Yes.
This is something that I've really implemented within the last year, so I know we talk a lot about me and my mom and how I was very much raised this way.
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That is not the truth of my whole family.
Like we are not.
You're not a coven.
No, no, me and my mom are a two person coven and in my extended family what we do is very odd.
And I have received some messages about Jesus in my time.
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And what I have found like the what the people pleaser in me wants to do is like be quieter.
And I found that those energetic boundaries and like that, that force field is harder to maintain when I'm not in my authenticity.
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'Cause you're shrinking your energy.
Exactly.
And so choosing to only allow joy into that bubble from me included saying like, if this, as much as this is like a field to keep other people out, like it is also a magnet for my own negativity.
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And it's going to draw it out and it's going to release it into the world and let it go back to the earth where it needs to be.
Because the truth is that I am happy with myself and my choices.
And if I can stand on my choices.
I heard something recently that it was like, it's a quote that I'm going to butcher.
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And so I'm sorry, but I've leant on it.
I've leaned on it a lot recently of if you feel good about your choices, if you can stand on your beliefs, and if you, if you don't feel shame about what you believe and what you honor and what your moral values are, then nothing that anybody else says gets to matter.
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Like people are allowed to be upset about it and it then just becomes water off a duck's back like our Lord and savior Jinx Monsoon once said.
Who?
You are not up to date on drag race and it shows.
34:05
Jinx Monsoon has been around forever.
I've never watched Drag Race, I'm sorry.
Again, generational divide.
I we see it in these very niche moments.
It's not even like we're that far apart in age, but sometimes we're worlds apart.
Worlds apart.
All you have to know is that you are the Trixie to my Katya.
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Mm, hmm, yeah.
And if you know, you know.
You are the Monica to my Rachel.
You think I'm Monica or no?
No, you're right, I am Monica.
Sorry, I got them confused.
34:38
Clearly haven't finished Friends.
You're definitely Monica cause Drew is for sure.
Chandler.
Really.
Yeah.
Mm.
Hmm.
Yeah, for sure.
Yeah.
I am Monica without the cleanliness.
Yeah.
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So really, I'm just brunette.
You're probably more like Phoebe.
Thank you.
No, she's like extroverted though.
Whatever, I'll be the Monika tear, Rachel.
You're the Elaine to my Jerry.
That one have no idea what you're talking about.
Oh.
No.
35:12
What is that?
Seinfeld.
No, you.
You OK?
You know me as well as you know me.
And you think I've seen Seinfeld?
I haven't seen anything.
Why?
I like, that's like my whole thing.
35:30
Everybody talks about how I've never seen anything.
I don't know what to do with this.
Still haven't watched Aladdin.
I get a message once a week.
Have you watched Aladdin yet?
No, no, I haven't.
I get it.
I know.
You're the Raja to my Jasmine.
Fuck you, I know that one.
35:45
That's the little monkey.
No, it's not.
It's the tiger.
Oh shit.
The monkey is Sabu, the ferret is Yago.
This is how you know, I'm not lying about not having seen it.
36:04
What's the bad guy's name?
You're him, Jafar.
Whatever.
You know, I think this podcast is a part of why I feel really good.
Like a lot of my friends and my peers are having these, like, quarter life crises about like, approaching 30.
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And I just turned 27.
So many people who listen to this podcast are like, you're such a baby.
You've never seen a blank.
And I'm like, yeah, I am a baby.
I'm so youthful.
I've never seen Seinfeld.
We're watching.
Seinfeld.
I don't want to.
It's such a good show to passively have on in the background.
36:45
Fine.
It's not when you sit down and you take notes on.
Tell me a show you do sit down and take notes on.
Lost.
Haven't seen it.
Shut the fuck up, I'm watching a show right now.
37:03
This is an aside but this is the greatest show I've ever watched and I think it's a niche because of niche Molly lore.
We're watching a show called The Man on the Inside.
It's about an older gentleman who gets hired as a private investigator and then moves into a retirement community to find out who's stealing from the residence.
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And my husband and I notoriously met working at a retirement community.
And I swear, I swear, they literally went to our retirement community with like a camera crew because I was like, Oh my God, that's Betty.
37:40
I can pick out the residence in the.
The worst?
Spot on.
I have been watching Buffy the Vampire Slayer, then this is how I know I can be convinced to watch something.
This is what you have to do to get me to watch something is you have to put me in a room of people that I want to like me, OK?
37:59
And they all have to talk about the show.
So dear listeners, next time we do an in person event, we are all going to talk about Aladdin.
We are gonna have a sing along another Arabian Night.
38:20
Sure.
Arabian Night.
It was fully like, it was me, Anthony and then a few other like local witches, small business owners that I was like, I want them to be my friends so bad.
38:35
And they were all talking about Buffy.
And I started it that night.
OK, All right.
Where?
Here, we're all gonna get together and talk about Seinfeld.
Everyone, everyone everyone starts sending Seinfeld memes to the Demystify Magic account.
38:56
Do it right now.
My personal favorite are the modern Seinfeld memes.
I'm gonna block all of you anyways.
Not actually.
Should we get back to the boundaries I guess?
You know what?
39:12
Energetic boundary?
Start yelling loudly about ATV show no one's seen.
Start talking about Drag Race.
Just tell all of your family members that you don't want to talk to, that they're the Trixie tier Katya, and they'll go away.
39:27
Yeah.
OK.
So now we're on to after the event.
Yes, we've survived.
We've held our energetic boundaries.
We brought up our force fields.
We got our pumpkin pie.
We ate a whole Costco pumpkin pie 'cause we went to Costco.
We bought every single one.
OK, so you get out of Costco or you get out of your your extroverted event.
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You go home, you want to do a cleanse.
We have a whole episode on spiritual cleansing.
So if you're like, what the fuck is a cleansing?
How do I do that?
I know what you're queuing up next, but a really simple one that I like to do that you can do while you're still at your in laws house.
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You can do on your way out of Costco is to go to the bathroom, wash your hands, and while your hands are running under the water, imagine all of that energy that you may have picked up from other people rinsing down the drain.
Love that one that I do after I have people over.
40:30
So if you're the one hosting the Extraverted Gathering, if you're the one who is hosting Christmas dinner, salt your floors after everyone leaves.
So.
You just dump a bunch of salt.
Just dump a bunch of salt, leave it for like half an hour and then vacuum it up.
Also an easy way to get you to clean after wait.
40:49
When you say salt your floors like I am picturing like sandy beach amount of salt.
Are you just sprinkling?
What are you doing a sprinkle?
OK, you just sprinkle it around.
Yeah, sprinkle it on the floor.
OK, I do a simmer pot.
41:07
I love that too.
Because that is the last thing I want to do when people leave my house is vacuum.
I want to rot on the couch.
But that's a great way.
If you need to clean up, it's a great way to get you to clean.
I'm not going to clean my floors, I just like speed cleaned my entire house before they got there.
41:26
But then they all put their dirty shoes on the floor.
That's why I cleanse the floor.
OK, no one's like walking in my bedroom as long as their dirty shoes aren't in there.
Well, that's why you just could do it in the room that everybody was the living room.
I'm not gonna.
41:42
Do that I'm not really mean about my idea.
That's OK.
You don't have to.
I wasn't telling you I had to do it.
I wasn't giving you A to do list.
I feel like in my brain I'm making this more difficult.
I feel like this is when you thought I was scrubbing shower curtains.
This is 100%.
Look, this has to be easier than it sounds to me 'cause it sounds like absolute hell, 'cause I'm like, if I sprinkle salt on the floor, I'm gonna need to vacuum and then mop.
42:08
Yeah, no, it's not that much salt.
OK, so just 'cause if you like.
Salt.
Literally.
It's like a sponge.
It soaks up the energy.
So imagine it like you sprinkle a little bit.
It has its own force field, it's got its own energetic boundaries.
It's expanding, it's pulling it all up from the ground.
42:25
OK, alright, I'm thinking way too much salt.
Way too much I can tell you.
Sandy beaches.
I need like like literally.
Like Salt Bay?
Yes, that was exactly what I was about to say.
But I I think even Salt Bay might have had too much salt.
Yeah.
All right.
So kind of like the salt you throw over your shoulder.
42:42
Yes, that level of salt.
OK, All right, I.
I just in a few different spots of your house.
The whole like the whole floor or just like?
I think it's up to discretion.
OK, great.
You know how we tell everybody else to use their intuition?
42:59
Use your intuition, Molly.
I I OK my truth is that I just vacuumed and mopped my new house for the first time and it was so exhausting so.
You're, so you're projecting onto.
Me projecting, I was like, there's a lot more floors than there was in my last house.
43:19
I'm not telling you to deep clean.
I'm just gonna light my banishing candle from smell crafter and just fucking.
That's a great one too.
Perfect.
I love that one for you.
Let me rot.
But if you've hosted your family members who are sending you videos about Jesus.
43:36
Oh yeah, no, I understand.
Salt the floors, bestie.
Family members who are doing that, they're just making fun of my tofurkey.
We all have our cross to bear Speaking of people who are talking shit at the holidays.
Oh, good segue.
43:53
Thank you.
Here's my favorite method.
This can be done both before or after you're gathering your Costco trip.
If there's someone who really pissed you off at the Costco, I guess you could do this for them too.
Put them in the freezer.
This is like, I guess what you would maybe call medium effort.
44:09
I know we talk about a lot about low effort.
This is what I would call like a medium effort spell.
So what you're gonna do is you're gonna take a jar or a cup.
Or a zip lock bag.
Or a zip lock bag.
Honestly, a zip lock bag is probably best.
I have broken a couple jars doing this because, fun fact, water does expand when it's frozen, yes.
44:28
So don't seal anything super tightly, that's safety measure #1 but you're gonna take a little slip of paper and you're gonna write your petition on it.
So you're gonna write this person's name and exactly what you want.
So you're going to say I want this person to not speak to me.
44:44
I want this person to leave me alone.
I want this person to not call me after today and talk to me about my tofurkey.
Yeah.
I want this person to let the tofurkey go.
Madison's going to be putting all of you in the freezer.
Who sends Seinfeld?
Music.
Oh yeah, even worse.
I'm not going to block you.
You're going straight in the freezer.
45:01
My best friend called me the other day, 'cause he has some problems with his HOA and he was trying to sell his house and literally the people in the HOA are so mean that he had a buyer that was like they were under contract.
This person went to the HOA meeting and then pulled out.
45:22
Oh my God.
Yes, bonkers HOA and I had him put the people in his HOA in the freezer.
I once put someone in the freezer who was copying my content on Instagram.
And they stopped.
She unfollowed me.
45:37
I once put someone in the freezer in my extended family and we were in the same room and they did not speak to me.
Like literally ignored me through an entire event.
OK, so you write your petition, you put it in your Ziploc bag or your jar.
45:55
You.
Fill that vessel with water and then whatever herbs come to mind.
So I'll usually do like salt pepper.
If I really don't like that person, I'll do a little bit of cayenne for the HOA.
For the HOA they were dumping, it was like half cayenne, half water.
But yeah, like, make it a little spicy if they try to push past that energetic boundary, you know, make it sting a little bit.
46:18
But I would do like salt for cleansing for protection, maybe a little bit of Rosemary.
Sometimes I'll put a little bit of sugar if it's someone I have to interact with but I want but they're mean I want to sweeten them to.
Me, I was going to say lavender for if it's someone that you just like need to lovingly separate from, you know, like it's a it's a no hard feelings, but I just can't do this right now type energy.
46:40
Yeah.
And then you literally just stick it in the back of your freezer.
But a big but a boom.
Leave it there.
Leave it there, let it freeze.
And people always ask me this.
You can.
You can throw it away eventually.
Yeah, if you want to.
46:56
Yeah, like when I moved, I didn't bring all of my people who copy my content freezer bags with me.
Oh, that's weird.
I just threw those away.
I was like, I'm just gonna leave those here.
We're gonna let bygones.
Bygones.
Yeah, when?
47:13
You feel it's done, it's thing.
You can toss it out, let him thaw.
Yeah, but that is like one of my favorite spells ever, truthfully.
Yeah, it's so empowering.
It feels like 'cause it's, it's, it's like I always describe it as like, it's not like we're trying to control the other person, right?
47:32
It's more so about putting your foot down and saying like, I am not allowing this in my energetic space or my physical space or my emotional space, and this is like me doing a ritual that really stamps that into me.
Yeah, 100%.
47:48
Because I think like we often can feel, especially with family, like I have no choice.
I have no choice but to have this person around me, which can be the truth.
Like there are some things we can't control.
This is a way that you can feel empowered to say like, no, I don't want you here, here being like in my energy, in my space, like you don't get access to me just because we have to be around one another.
48:17
Yep, love.
That, and that's OK.
I think the thing that I really want to stress more than anything else in this episode is that, like, those boundaries are not a negative reflection of you.
No boundaries are good.
We need boundaries.
And no one is owed access to you energetically, physically, emotionally.
48:40
If someone has mistreated you, you do not have to give them anything.
Your energy belongs to you.
And I think the strongest energetic boundary that you can set if you want to, is saying no is saying I love you.
But I'm not doing this.
48:57
I'm not coming here.
My energy is depleted.
I'm sorry, I cannot make your Christmas party.
You don't need to go to every fight you're invited to.
You don't need to go to every holiday party you're invited to.
You don't need to go to every Costco you're invited to.
You don't need to go to every Seinfeld showing you're invited to.
49:14
You do.
You do need to do that.
Apparently I'm not allowed to have energetic boundaries caught live on air, Molly.
Disregarding my boundaries.
All right.
Did we do it?
We did it.
49:30
All right, we love you guys very much.
Let us know how you are holding up your energetic boundaries and let us know if you cops submerge.
Cops submerge.
All right, OK, bye.
Thanks for listening to Demystify Magic with Molly and Madison.
49:48
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